THIS IS HOW I WORK
Curiosity
Compassion.
Honest Reflection.
Many of us have spent years trying to manage symptoms, solve problems, and become the person we thought we were supposed to be.
But lasting change rarely comes from trying harder. It starts with understanding yourself, rebuilding trust in your own inner wisdom, and deciding which patterns still deserve a place in your life.
What brings you here is rarely the whole story.
Underneath the anxiety, burnout, perfectionism, and people-pleasing are different parts of you pulling in different directions.
SOMETIMES IT SOUNDS LIKE THIS:
ANOTHER PART SAYS:
“I’m exhausted”
ONE PART SAYS:
“Work Harder”
ONE PART WANTS:
“Connection”
ANOTHER PART IS AFRAID:
“I’ll get hurt.”
ANOTHER PART FEELS:
“Guilty for resting”
ONE PART WANTS:
“To slow down.”
HOW I MAKE SENSE
of what is
happening.
One of the foundational pillars of my work is from a framework called Internal Family Systems. Despite the name, it isn’t actually about your family. It’s based on the idea that we all have different “parts” of ourselves that make up who we are.
If you’re interested in learning more about the nuances of IFS, you can read more here. But don’t worry if you don’t, I’ll definitely talk more about parts work in our sessions.
A part that wants to work harder
A part that is exhausted and overwhelmed
None of these parts are bad.
They’re all trying to help in the best way they know how.
Our work isn’t about getting rid of them.
It's helping them trust you enough that they don't have to work quite so hard anymore.
A part that wants connection
A part that is terrified of getting hurt.
A lot of people come into therapy worried about how they’ll be perceived or concerned about being judged. So, they try to be the “easy” client —polished, self-aware, holding it all together—just like most every other area of their lives.
They tiptoe around the real issues. They soften the hard parts or make jokes when something actually hurts. They explain away their anger, choke back tears and minimize what happened.
“This is going to sound so bad…”
“I know I shouldn’t feel this way…”
“It’s not a big deal…”
But you don’t have to do that here.
Not with me.
In fact — I prefer you didn’t.
The biggest shifts often happen quietly and gradually.
This isn’t just a place to vent.
It’s where real change begins.
Sometimes we're simply looking for someone to tell us what to do. But lasting change usually isn't about finding better advice.
It's about becoming honest enough to recognize what's no longer serving you—and trusting yourself enough to choose something different.
But our work goes beyond talking.
I’ll hold space when you need to vent and unload. But I’m not going to let you get stuck there either.
I’ll sit with you through the hard stuff, and I’ll also gently point out the places you might be getting in your own way.
Together, we’ll slow things down get to the root issue and create meaningful change that actually lasts.
HOW THE CHANGE HAPPENS
01
NOTICE
Notice the thoughts, emotions, body sensations, and protective patterns of you've been living with for years.
03
02
UNDERSTAND
Instead of fighting the parts and the ways they’ve adapted, we will get curious about what they’re trying to protect and whether those responses are still serving you today.
RESPOND
Once things start to make sense, you’ll have more choice in how you respond and can lead your parts from a place of clarity, compassion and choice.
The real work starts when you stop performing and start being honest.
Therapy works best when you stop editing, explaining, or trying to be the "good" client.
Because the goal isn't to become someone different.
It's about giving yourself permission to stop living in survival mode and to reconnect with the true version of yourself that's been there all along.
WHAT CHANGE ACTUALLY
LOOKS LIKE
Therapy isn't about becoming a different person. It's about slowly feeling more like yourself.
You may still have anxiety sometimes.
You may still overthink.
But those patterns stop running the show. Decisions begin to feel clearer.
Boundaries become easier.
You trust yourself more.
And you finally begin to build a life that reflects the person you've been becoming all along.
Change isn’t always loud or dramatic.
It’s usually quiet, steady and deeply personal.
01
A PAUSE BEFORE REACTING
You create space between the trigger and your reaction so you can choose how to show up
02
03
04
TRUST YOU AGAIN
You quiet the pressures and expectations of others and start tuning into what you need.
STOP OVER- EXPLAINING
You set boundaries and let go of the need to justify, defend or prove your worth.
FEELING GROUNDED
You build routines and habits that support your well-being and bring you stability in your days.
05
LIVE LIKE YOURSELF AGAIN
You make decisions that reflect who you are— not who you think you should be or what someone else says you should.
WE MIGHT BE A GOOD FIT
and we might not!
Research tells us is that one of the strongest predictors of success in therapy, is the relationship between the therapist and client. In other words, feeling comfortable, understood, and genuinely connected matters.
That's why I believe finding the right fit is so important. The approaches and tools I use matter, but the foundation of our work will always be a relationship where you feel safe enough to show up as yourself.
Truthfully, my style isn’t for everyone. And that’s OK!!!!
Ready to Have
Me In Your Corner?
Starting therapy can feel like a big step. But if you’re here, something isn’t sitting right anymore. You don’t need to be falling apart to deserve support, and you don’t have to wait until things get worse to do something about it.
If you’re curious about working together, reach out to schedule a free 15-minute consultation or initial session.
You don’t have to keep pushing through this on your own.